Forgiving Is Hard, but Not Forgiving Hurts More

Set yourself free

Set yourself free.

Not forgetting ties us to the past — Pic by Oladimeji Odunsi/ Unsplash

Let bygones be bygones. Forget and move on. Kiss and make up.

Forgiving is easier said than done.

Most people believe that forgiveness means condoning an event. But it’s not. Blame ties us to the past and makes our heart and mind smaller — both literally and metaphorically. Forgiving, on the other hand, means realizing that resentment and hatred add more pain.

Science shows that forgiving is good for your health.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting. It’s not accepting, justifying or overlooking an event either. It’s choosing to let go of resentment or the need for revenge — we eliminate the suffering, not the wrongdoing. The offender might not deserve your pardon, but you deserve to be at peace.

When you forgive, you set yourself free.

Forgiving Is Hard, but It’s Healthy

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” — Paul Boese

There’s a causal relationship between forgiveness an…