Stop Imagining That Conversation. Just Have It.

Daily Stretch #13: Ask for what you want

Daily Stretch #13: Ask for what you want

Ask for (and get) what you want. Pic by matthew-henry

Your mind is bothering you now.

It has been bothering you for a long time. The same situation repeats over and over. Like an obsessive director, you imagine different angles and settings. You rehearse the dialogue. You expect the words to be perfect.

But they won’t. Rehashing an imaginary conversation won’t make it real.

You want to quit your job. Maybe, end a longtime relationship. You want to let your friend know how much his words hurt you. You wish to be promoted. Your most charismatic employee needs to know that her constant change of mind is driving everyone crazy. Or you simply wish to draw a line with your pushy in-laws.

Whatever is bothering you now, a conversation in your head, won’t make it go away.

A real conversation will end your problem.

Today’s stretch: ask for what you want

“You can’t ask for what you want unless you know what it is.” — Barbara de Angelis

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