The Best Advice You Can Ever Give
Hint: it starts with listening
Hint: it starts by listening.
“Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own.” — Bruce Lee
We all love giving advice.
We have the perfect solution for every problem. Except our own.
Helping others feels good. You not only enjoy seeing how people overcome their issues — you are proud it was because of your advice.
That’s the problem with helping others; it can quickly turn into an ego-booster rather than an altruistic act. Your friends or colleagues are the protagonists of their own struggles but, immediately, you want to take over — you become the hero who will rescue them from their suffering.
Most advice is useless. It pleases the provider more than the receiver. It’s created based on one’s expectations, not on understanding others.
The best advice is in the eye of the beholder. Not in yours.
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