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This Is Why You Are Afraid of Being Happy

The Paradox of Happiness

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Gustavo Razzetti
Nov 27, 2017
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The Paradox of Happiness

Happiness is a choice. You can hide in your shell or want what you get. Pic by unsplash.com/@so_obarey

Are you happy?

I remember the first time I asked that question to my wife back when we started dating. She was caught off-guard. Now, though she got used to me asking her if she’s happy, my wife still feels uneasy. This thought-provoking question connects us with a more profound part of ourselves.

“Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get” ― W.P. Kinsella

Are you happy?

We are continually asking others “how are you?” as a formality. Not because we care. But happiness is different; it’s a serious thing.

Happiness is much more than a smile or enjoying a movie. Happiness is a mental state that we desire and fear at the same time. Even if we don’t realize it.

The Paradox of Happiness

“There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart’s desire. The other is to gain it.”― George Bernard Shaw

Your pursuit of happiness can quickly turn into …

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