Want to Resolve Conflicts? Use this Rule

The 50–50 rule help us move on

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“It’s always easy to blame others. You can spend your entire life blaming the world, but your success and failures are entirely your own responsibility.” — Paulo Coelho

Most of us want to be right — that’s why we fail to solve conflicts at work or personally.

Blaming is an easy way out — we make someone else responsible rather than owning our part. That’s why simple issues escalate into bigger problems. We want to win the argument at any cost.

Playing the blame game fuels more tensions. Being right becomes more important than solving the issue at hand.

The best way to solve conflict is to own your part. That’s the principle behind the 50–50 rule — blame yourself, not just others.

You Are Also Accountable

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” — Robert Anthony

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