Why Feedback Is Like Sex
Everyone does it, but few do it well
Everyone does it, but few do it well
How often do you do it?
Feedback is like sex — everyone wants more. A large majority considers feedback to be valuable. And they want to practice it more often. Nearly 60% of employees would like to receive it more frequently, on a daily or weekly basis.
But, just like sex, there’s a difference between doing it and doing it well. Here’s why.
We assume the other person wants it too
That you desire something doesn’t mean the other person wants it, too.
Falling into this temptation is easy. An employee wants to chat and we immediately think they are looking for feedback. Either because we want to help, share our experience, or look smart. However, unsolicited feedback doesn’t help — it pleases the giver more than the receiver.
Sometimes people just want to talk — either they need to blow steam, share something, or think out loud. In most cases, when people say they want to talk to you is because they want to do the talking. Y…
