Why We Envy the Life Others Desired First
The illusion of the before and after
The illusion of the before and after.
We have an obsession with ‘before and after’ pictures.
Whether it’s a friend who lost 60 pounds, a celebrity’s 10-year challenge on Instagram or our neighbor’s home extreme makeover, we can’t resist a transformation. We identify with the original problem and feel inspired by how things turned out.
That’s why before-and-afters are so captivating — they provide an emotional reward to both protagonists and spectators. That illusion comes at a high price though: we idealize the improvement but don’t appreciate the journey.
So, when do we cross the line between admiration and frustration?
The desire to live someone else’s life seeds envy — we suffer when others experience good fortune.
Envy is a powerful emotion. It can either motivate us or make us resentful.
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