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You Are Your Worst Bully

Stop labeling yourself

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Gustavo Razzetti
Oct 10, 2018
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Stop labeling yourself.

labels define us, but they shouldn’t— Pic by PNG Design

“Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined.” 
― Toni Morrison

Don’t let a bully’s labels define you — defy them.

Earlier this week, Monica Lewinski made the headlines for leading a new anti-bullying campaign. She knows how it feels being called names publicly. The former White House intern was referred as ‘that woman’ during Bill Clinton’s impeachment.

Lewinski has become a powerful and brave activist — the labels and bullying couldn’t stop her.

The #DefyTheName campaign wants to disarm name calling. This reminded me of self-criticism — labeling is something we do to ourselves too.

What happens when we are the ones bullying ourselves?

Self-bullying is more harmful than being bullied by others — it’s impossible to stand up to external criticism if you can’t stop your own attacks.

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“We contain multitudes.” — Walt Whitman

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